First of all, Happy Women’s Day to all the lovely ladies out there. You ARE who make the world. Without you, nothing can exist and nurture. You are the very foundation of this humanity. I would like to take this opportunity today, to thank all the women in my life – my mother, my sister, my friends, my family members. You all have played significant roles in my life and continue to do same.
** Sorry that this post is not bookish by any means. But thank you to those who are still reading 🙂
When I reached my office today, I saw this sweet gesture, from my management, on my desk 🙂
I was certainly not expecting this and then I realized that it is at every girl’s desk. Isn’t this sweet? And how apt is this quote on the card:
“The more you like yourself, the less you are like anyone else, which makes you unique.”
I was then thinking what this day even mean to me? We got an email from our HR wishing us and sharing her experiences over the years. Her mail made me think – Why we need to celebrate a special day to prove our existence and our worth? Probably because we have always been considered inferior to men?
As many of you might know, we are celebrating this march as Women’s reading month. Now the question is why do we even need to celebrate a month exclusively for women writers? Isn’t the literature should consider both men and women equally? That is certainly thought provoking!
But whatever is the reason, I am happy that we are celebrating and the women are getting recognized worldwide and getting appreciation. Being a reader, I feel that I am lucky that I get to read about so many different cultures and more specifically about strong women. It makes me understand them better and reach to the places, where I can’t go otherwise, and understand the sentiments of those women.
I am not the person who have read too many books and read about each culture. You can say I am yet the beginner in this reading world. But every time a see a strong women character, my heart just blossoms 😀 It makes me HAPPY.
Like almost every other girl, my role model is my mother too and it is her to whom I look for motivation. I have to admit here, that I was not the kind of girl who understood the difficulties of my mother being a housewife. I realized it once I got married. I am living a happily married life but there are sometimes such situations when I think what my mother would have done. After my marriage, I realized her real importance. Indeed, a mother is the best gift everyone can have 🙂 I remember one quote from Rupi Kaur’s Milk and Honey:
“I struggle so deeply to understand
how someone can
pour their entire soul, blood and energy
into someone without wanting anything in return
– I will have to wait till I’m a mother”
— Rupi Kaur
I am no “feminist” at all, as they say, neither do I have a whole lot of experience as compared to other women. But over these 30 years of my life, I certainly have realized the mistakes I have made along with the good things that I have done. I would like to share a few of those “learnings” that I have taught myself over the years.
Things I have learned over the years
1. Try to grab every opportunity: We women often get fewer opportunities as compared to the men, be it a field of technology or otherwise. In this scenario, it is important for us to grab whatever chance that comes our way knocking to make ourselves and our lives better. Personally, I have faced many such situations where I was told this or that thing was not for me and I used to think maybe I was not good enough. Don’t pass those opportunities along being tied down by constraints or thinking you may not be good enough. Even if we are not that capable, I believe there is always a way out and we can always learn new things.
2. Be determined: Be determined towards your goal, towards what you want to achieve, be persistent and most importantly don’t give up. Keep trying because perhaps it’s just one more push that gets you there? Maybe a little motivation to yourself could help achieve what you want?
3. Use your strong points as a woman: Have you heard men saying that how talkative women are and how bad they are in networking? Well, if we are bad at networking then why can’t we pay attention to our strong points like relationships? We, women, are certainly good at relationships, aren’t we? And well, relationships are more meaningful and are long term. The point is, focus on your strong points but try to improve your weakest links too.
4. Don’t be afraid of seeking help: This is a weak point for me too. I am often shy when it comes to seeking help from others. But over the time I have realized that it won’t help you much. So don’t be afraid, ask for help. Also be collaborative so that you can help others in need too.
5. Pay back to society: This point, I think, is not just applicable to women but everyone else. We live in a community and get many things from it. It is our duty to forward it – at work, at home, in the society. This is not only for us but for our future generation too. if everyone just knows how to get but not give back, then this world wouldn’t remain a place to live in.
6. Being perfect is not everything: Half of our lives, we thrive on being perfect, worthy of our partners or our parents. try too hard to fit in the society. Don’t look for perfection in everything. Sometimes, some things are just not meant to be. You can’t make your life perfect and live a fairytale life. Somethings are just not worthy of the time and energy to try to identify, prioritize and go for things that matter to you. Don’t just run with the pack.
what’s the greatest lesson a woman should learn?
that since day one. she’s already had everything
she needs within herself. it’s the world that
convinced her she did not.
— Rupi Kaur
7. Keep your eye on the bigger picture: Many of us just settles down easily and then just become lazy to explore their life further. I would say don’t stop looking for opportunities to grow. Keep looking and keep thriving. Don’t get comfortable in your current life. You don’t know what the future is holding for you. Don’t stagnate.
8. Educate yourself: Education is so important for all of us. But for generations, especially in my country, I feel a lack of this in rural areas. People don’t understand the importance of it and don’t educate their children. But hopefully, the situation is much better now. Education gives you the power to think sharply, to act wisely and to differentiate between right and wrong. Basically, it helps you to be a better human. Education doesn’t just mean doing the regular school and college courses. It is much more than that. It should help you to make your life better and also should give you the courage to make your future generation better.
9. Raise your boys like your girls: There is a patriarchy in our society regarding what is considered manly and what’s for women. Pink is for girls while blue is for boys. It’s the job of women to do household chores while men need to earn bread for the family. Girls should wear this and boy should wear that. Who created these rules? Certainly not the educated society. I am raised in a society where this was the common thinking. But I was lucky that my family was educated. Not everyone is this lucky though. I don’t have any brother so possible I don’t know the exact differentiation that parents made between a boy and a girl. But from what I know, mostly, the boys are raised as superiors as compared to girls (at least in my society). From their childhood only, the society tells them what’s their job and what’s for girls. But we, as parents, have to raise them equally. We have to tell them that every task is for boys and are same for girls. Only then we can fulfill our dream of #equality in our society.
10. Take good care of yourself: This has to be the most important point, trust me! Of all the other things, first learn to take good care of YOURSELF. If you are not happy then certainly your family and people near you can’t be happy. try to do things which make you satisfied. Always remember to have have fun on the way whatever journey you embarks upon, as they say – the journey is more important than the destination. Enjoy what you have and try to gain further but first, take good care of yourself. YOU should be your PRIORITY! #BeYou
Okay, last quote from Rupi Kaur:
how you love yourself is
how you teach others
to love you
— Rupi Kaur
Happy International Women’s Day to all the lovely ladies out there! Let’s talk about our experiences being a woman!
Are there any experiences that you would like to share?
Leave me your thoughts below 🙂